Small Stories #40

To start up this week on a Monday morning sharing this small story with you all ….

Are you Hurt?

On his first day
in office as President,
when Abraham Lincoln entered to give his inaugural address,
one man stood up.

He was a rich Aristocrat.

He said, “Mr. Lincoln, you should not forget that your father used to make shoes for my family.”

And the whole Senate laughed; they thought they had made a fool of Lincoln.

But certain people are made of a totally different mettle.

Lincoln looked at the man directly in the eye and said,
“Sir, I know that my father used to make shoes for your family, and there will be many others here,
Because he made shoes the way nobody else can, he was a Creator.

His shoes were not just shoes; he poured his whole soul into them.

I want to ask you, have you any complaint?

Because I know how to make shoes myself.
If you have any complaint,
I can make you another pair of shoes.
But as far as I know, nobody has ever complained about my father’s shoes.
He was a Genius,
a Great Creator and
I am proud of
my Father”.

The whole Senate was struck dumb.
They could not understand what kind of man Abraham Lincoln was.

He was proud because his Father did his Job
so well–
that not even a single Complaint had ever been heard.

Moral of this story:

“No one can hurt you without your Consent.”

“It is not what happens to us that hurts us.

It is our response that hurts us.

Be excellent at
your work
no matter
what work you do.”

Acceptance

Of course we would all benefit if we just accepted lessons passed down to us, but where is the fun in eating unless you have seen, felt, smelt and tasted the food? And yet, it would be beneficial to get a jumpstart by accepting at least some givens. These are:

  1. Allow happiness to lead your choices: Be it works or relationships, choose what makes you happy. That’s the best way to find and align with your true purpose.
  2. Do not believe all you see and hear: Dwell beyond perception to understand the truth. You will be surprised at what you discover.
  3. If you set your mind and heart to it, you can achieve anything: Nothing is impossible so long as you are determined to work and strategise to achieve it.
  4. All good things come with intention and hard work: Be it relationships,or a state of peace and happiness,nothing falls into your lap unless you work at it with dedication, sincerity and strategy.
  5. This too shall pass: Good or bad, everything changes and life is more often than not an alternating cycle of the good and bad. Just believe and maintain a balance.
  6. The critical point is to live your experience with alertness and practice regular reflection: Life evolves and upgrades as you realign your being to new learnings along the journey.

Be Happy

If you wait until you feel 100% ready, you will be waiting the rest of your life.

Realize this!

Some people wait all day for 5pm, all week for Friday, all year for the holidays, all their lives for happiness. Don’t be one of them.

Cheers to a New Beginning

Although none of the above mentioned “notes to self” immediately force you to do anything different, they represent a timely shift in perspective, and perspective is where peace and happiness begins. From there, you can change your posture from one of tension and resistance to one of acceptance and opportunity.

Ultimately, the goal isn’t to get rid of all your negative thoughts, feelings or life situations as you journey into 2021. The goal is to change your response to them.

The days, weeks and months ahead—both before and after the New Year—will be filled with incredible highs and stressful lows, for all of us. But in any case, we can train our minds to make the best of the present moment as it unfolds. Just take it one “note” at a time, and please know that if you’re struggling with any of this, you are not alone. Many of us are right there with you, working hard to feel better, think more clearly, and keep our lives on track.

I sincerely hope you will join with hard things of life as we prepare to begin a new in 2021.

Forgive yourself

Forgive yourself for the bad decisions you made, for the times you lacked understanding, for the choices that hurt others & yourself. Forgive yourself, for being young & reckless. These are all vital lessons. And what matters most right now is your willingness to grow from them.

Everything gets a bit uncomfortable when it’s time to change. That’s just a part of the growth process. With effort, things will gradually get better. Be patient and remind yourself: Life never gets easier, you just get stronger.

If you don’t allow yourself to move past what happened, what was said, what was felt, you will look at your present & future through that same dirty lens, & nothing will be able to focus your foggy judgment. Realize this. What you do now matters more than what happened yesterday.

Impress yourself. Show yourself that you can grow and get better. It’s never about competing with anyone else. In the end, it’s just you vs. you.

You need to do hard things to be happy in life. Because the hard things ultimately build you up and change your life. They make the difference between existing and living, between knowing the path and walking it, between a lifetime of empty promises and one filled with progress.

Small Stories #40

Good read!
On a flight to Kuala Lumpur recently, I noticed a young girl of seven request the stewardess for orange juice. The stewardess was probably over-worked and responded quite curtly with ‘I will come by later if I remember’.

The young girl smiled and got up to follow her to the galley. I noticed that she came back after a short while with a glass of orange juice.

As she was seated by the aisle next to me, I struck up a conversation with her. I asked her what she did when she went to the galley! She said she offered to help the stewardess if she had too much work. The stewardess apparently hugged her and appreciated her offer and gave her the orange juice. So, I asked her why she did that.

Her response was absolutely magical!

She said, my mum always tells me that when people are upset, it has more to do with them having to carry the world on their shoulders. During these moments, she says, I should help offload the world from their shoulders.

I wish I had had her wisdom when I was her age. Our parents probably tell us the same variation, but very few implement it like she did.

Work is a part of life.

Understand people at work and evaluate how heavy a world are they carrying. If life were black or white, it would be monotonous!

A great legacy is worth leaving behind.

The power of patience

What one cannot achieve with pressure can be very easily achieved with patience.

Patience brings a state of calm inside us which helps in finding the answers that already lie within. It gives courage to work on the problem in a cool and relaxed way till the solution is found. It brings creativity even to mundane things.

Wishing you a beautiful morning and a peaceful and relaxed Weekend.

How to get rid of Anger

Four levels of workplace anger

1 – Employee upset. Sensitive to criticism, and irritable. Displays “passive-aggressive” behaviors such as procrastination of work, expressing sarcasm, being late to meetings.

2 – Behavioral symptoms escalate. Angry remarks are expressed. Employee is openly critical of others and the company. More emotional, less rational. Absenteeism and tardiness is common.

3 – Escalating physical, emotional and psychological arousal. Raising voice, throwing things about, slam door, threats.

4 – Assaultive behavior and or destruction of property.
Anger management training for supervisors and managers can help them as individuals and give them better skills to manage difficult employees, before the situation rises to a Level 4 crisis.

Key management strategies:

Strategy 1– Know your resources
Company resources include EAP (employee referral program), and HR (human resources). Community resources include psychologists, substance abuse programs, and anger management programs.

Strategy 2 – Assertive Communication
This means that you express your thoughts, feelings and opinions directly in an honest, open, straightforward and sincere manner. It also involves learning to actively listen to employees and being aware of non-verbal communication that goes beyond his or her words.

Strategy 3 – Set Limits
When you set limits with others in the workplace both parties know what they can expect from each other. When you clarify individual expectations, you avoid misunderstandings that can occur and thus avoid potential conflicts. For example, instead of asking support staff, “will you get this report to me as soon as possible?”, verbalize a specific time you need it.

Strategy 4 – Establish Consequences
In the real-world workplace, you may encounter conflicts with employees who are uncooperative or are unwilling to comply with the rules or policies of your company. As a manger, you may have to take an action that states to the employee the likely outcome of continuing problematic behavior.

Be sure to deliver consequences so they don’t sound like “threats,” but still get the message across.

Balance sheet of Life

BALANCE SHEET Of LIFE

🔺Birth is your Opening Stock.

🔺What comes to you
is
Credit.

🔺What goes from you
is
Debit.

🔺Death is your Closing Stock.

🔺Your ideas are your
Assets.

🔺Your views are your
Liabilities.

🔺Your happiness is
your
Profit.

🔺Your sorrow is your
Loss.

🔺Your soul is your
Goodwill.

🔺Your heart is your
fixed
Assets.

🔺Your duties are your
outstanding
Expenses.

🔺Your friendship is
your
hidden
Adjustment.

🔺Your character is
your
Capital.

🔺Your knowledge is
your
Investment.

🔺Your patience is your
Bank Balance.

🔺Your thinking is your
current Account.

🔺Your behaviour is
your
journal Entry.

🔺Bad things is your
Depreciation.

🍀Have a perfect Balance Sheet🍀 Always Remember GOD is your Auditor

Small Stories #39

I walked into a hotel and after going the menu, I ordered some food. After about 20mins a group of guys and ladies walked in & ordered theirs. To my dismay, these folks got served first. I watched as they began to eat & laugh heartily. I even overhead one of them bragging about how he’s connected to everyone in the hotel and I felt mocked. I decided to leave. Unable to take it anymore, I called the waiter. He calmly told me : ” yours is a special order, being prepared by the chief chef himself. Theirs orders were prepared hurriedly by students on attachment because the top chefs are busy with yours. That’s why they were served first. Please have some juice as you wait”. I calmed down & waited patiently.
Shortly after, my meal was served by 6 waiters. Unknown to me, the owner of the hotel (who happened to be an old long lost friend of mine) saw me when I entered and decided to surprise me. She changed my simple meal to a five-star meal. The party at the other table were shocked. They couldn’t stop staring . Suddenly they were the ones murmuring, asking why they didn’t get that kind of service and meal.
Such is life ! Some people are ahead of you and are eating now, laughing at you and talking about how they are smarter, wiser and better than you, how they are well connected , blessed, have money and are enjoying life. You are waiting tirelessly wondering why its taking so long to breakthrough, You endure mockery and humiliation. May be you’ve contemplated suicide, gone through depression or suffered severe mental anxiety. Don’t you worry ! The owner of the world has seen you & doesn’t want you to be served a simple meal like those making a mockery of you.
You’re waiting long because yours is a special meal. It takes time to prepare. And only chief chefs prepare them.
Wait for your meal and relax. When it comes that laughing party will be silenced for good.
Stay blessed enjoy your day ! This is my word of encouragement to you today.

Self realization

One thing successful people refuse to do something for themselves.

Let’s be real. Life is crazy hard sometimes! There’s no escaping that reality. It’s impossible to live well without encountering some level of struggle, and there are some seasons in our lives that are especially heartbreaking.

May be there is a period of profound loss, downturn of the economy,loss of job,death of nears and so on. Worry seeped into everyday life. “Unhappiness” is the simplest word to describe it.
This is the nature of struggle, but as the days turned into weeks, months, and then years, we learned to press forward. We learned that we are resilient. And we now hold a greater appreciation for what we have and the people who are dear to us.

Sitting here now, years later, we can honestly say that really we have learned great lessons from that agonizing time in our lives. We’ve learned how to cope with the hard times, the pain and disappointment, and above all, we’ve learned the vital importance of self-love and self-care ― the magic that makes smiling again (and again) possible.

The truth is, everyone experiences unhappy circumstances on occasion, but there is a big difference between experiencing bouts of unhappiness and living a habitually unhappy life. That’s what chronically unhappy people do. And although many of these people are afraid to admit it, a vast majority of their unhappiness stems from their own perpetual self-neglect.

Self-neglect stands at the very top of this list. Even if you are generally a happy person, self-neglect is something that can easily creep up on you.

The key is to give yourself the extra attention you need and deserve.

Cooperation

Everyone seeks for cooperation from others, but the beauty lies in cooperating with others.

True cooperation is that which is given with the heart and touches the lives of others positively.

It inspires others to be cooperative too. This is the true help that one can extend to others.

We need to recognise that like musical notes we are all different. Only when we able to harmonise with others can we create a beautiful tune. Discover and Enjoy the power of “Cooperation”

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