Rule of Life

Everyone will not get everything, this is the RULE of LIFE, don’t try to get which is not yours. But don’t dare to loose which is yours.

BEHAVIOR is Sometimes Greater Than Knowledge, Because In Life There Are Many Situations Where Knowledge Fails But Behaviour Can Handle EVERYTHING.

Life is Too Short. So
Hug a Little Longer , Love A Little Stronger , Forgive a Little Sooner & Smile a Little Sweeter.

“Choices, Chances & Changes
are basic reminders of Life..
We need to make a Choice to take a Chance, otherwise our life will never Change .”

There is Always Another Chance for Everything in Life. But the Fact is there is No Chance of Another Life.

Small Stories #42

WHAT TASTE DO YOU LEAVE IN OTHERS’ MOUTHS?

There was an old man who was admitted in a hospital.

A young man visited him every day, and sat with him for more than one hour. He helped him eat his food, and to take his shower. Then he took him walking in the garden of the hospital. After that he brought him back to his room and helped him lie down.

He used to go away after reassuring himself that the old man is doing well.

One day the nurse entered the old man’s room, to give him medicine and inspect his condition, and she said to him:
“May the Lord be always gracious to your kind and caring son. Every day he visits you and shows great care.”

The old man looked at her and closed his eyes and said to her:
“I wish it was one of my children. This is an orphan from the neighborhood where we live. I met him one day in the past, crying at the door of a Church, after his father died. I comforted him and bought for him some candy. I neither saw him nor talked to him for a very long time by.

When he grew up and came to discover where my wife and I were living. He visited us every day to inspect our conditions. When I later fell sick, he took my old wife to his home. He then started coming to the hospital to see my treatment everyday. One day I asked him: “My son why do you have to deal with us and care about us?”

He simply smiled and said:
“The taste of the candy is still in my mouth “

Small Stories #41

Love Incorporated

A newly married couple approached the Master to seek his blessings.

Master blessed: “May your children have best of teens.”

The couple was surprised as were those present.

The new bride could not hold herself back and asked ”Master we were married just last month, bless us so that our love lasts us a lifetime”

Master smiled” Love which is based on masculine/feminine polarity is mortal. Being attractive in nature its only purpose is to bring the poles together. It does not last much beyond that. Most flowers are temporary as having served their purpose they wither away.

Likewise the love that gives you the current blossom will last only for a few seasons. However there is another kind of love which if you nurture now, can last you a lifetime”.

So saying the master stopped. The young bride was too eager to allow Master his pause. She interrupted:

“What love is that, Sir”

“That is the slow motion love of a man women friendship.” Master replied. “ If you aim to be lovers based on your natural chemistry together, you will find your relationship gone when passion wanes. However if you utilize this honeymoon period of attraction to lay foundation of a genuine friendship, another kind of love, based on empathy and caring will start to secrete in your life. It will take time and efforts to actualize, will not be dramatic, smooth or even passionate but it will be enduring. Remember what draws you to your partner initially is not what keeps you there so you must put efforts to build its alternate.”

“How can this man women friendship be created, sire” the man wanted to know.

“In two ways: in action, by doing things together and in emotion, by genuinely liking the being of other person, on an as it is basis. So when you let your partner flower into their own being without their having to change for you and create a dynamic where sharing is reciprocal, your marriage is based on a solid foundation. That’s the kind of love you want to achieve in your marriage.” Master said.

“What of teenage thing you mentioned master” Another man wanted to know.

“A parental relation which is based on genuine friendship with each other, is often the best state for the kids teenage. Since this friendship takes time to develop, so adopting it as a mission of your marriage” To give best teenage to our kids” often keeps the marriage on the right path & hence that blessing”. Master closed with a chuckle.

How to manage stress

Top Habits that Help You Manage Your Stress .

  1. Get in the habit of gratitude.
    Our attitude comes from our emotions and our emotions come from our thoughts. Thinking about what we’re grateful for and what we’re good at can keep things positive. It’s not about shying away from what’s challenging you; it’s about approaching life from a place of strength and not as a victim.
  2. Get in the habit of creating.
    Experiment with a new recipe in the kitchen, write a poem, bang a drum, do a craft, take a dance class or do something else that feels creative to you.
  3. Get in the habit of putting your stuff away.
    Physical clutter can really impact on mental, emotional and physical health. Get rid of things that don’t make you happy when you look at them. Organize your stuff. Find a place for everything and keep it there.
  4. Get in the habit of breathing.
    This is the simplest and quickest way to relax yourself in a
    stressful situation. The minute you focus on your breathing it automatically gets slower and deeper.
  5. Get in the habit of daydreaming.
    Take yourself away on an imaginary holiday. Just close your eyes and go! Picture somewhere you’ve been or somewhere you’ve dreamed of.
  6. Get in the habit of giggling.
    Laugh out loud every day.
    Don’t let your stress get the better of you! Which one of these strategies can you apply this week to manage your stress?

Advance Happy New Year 2021

Whatever comes your way as you journey into the New Year, remember the lesson of this story…👇

A little boy and his father visited the country store, and upon leaving the store, the owner of the store offered the little boy some free Sweets… “Get a hand full of Sweets”, the merchant said to the boy.
The boy just stood there looking up at his father. The owner repeated himself:- “Son get a hand full of Sweets… it’s free.” Again the boy did not move, continuing to look up in the face of his father.
Finally the father reached into the candy jar and got a hand full of Sweets and gave it to his son.
As they walked back home, the father stopped and asked his son why he did not grab a hand full of the free candy. The boy with a big smile on his face looked into the face of his father and said:- “Because I know that your HAND is BIGGER than mine.”

So, whatever your needs are for 2021, please place them in the GOD’S HAND IN HEAVEN,* because HIS HAND is BIGGER THAN YOURS.

Have a blessed time as you journey towards the new year.

My Prayers and Best Wishes for you and your household.

Managing stress

Top Habits that Help You Manage Your Stress .

  1. Get in the habit of gratitude.
    Our attitude comes from our emotions and our emotions come from our thoughts. Thinking about what we’re grateful for and what we’re good at can keep things positive. It’s not about shying away from what’s challenging you; it’s about approaching life from a place of strength and not as a victim.
  2. Get in the habit of creating.
    Experiment with a new recipe in the kitchen, write a poem, bang a drum, do a craft, take a dance class or do something else that feels creative to you.
  3. Get in the habit of putting your stuff away.
    Physical clutter can really impact on mental, emotional and physical health. Get rid of things that don’t make you happy when you look at them. Organize your stuff. Find a place for everything and keep it there.
  4. Get in the habit of breathing.
    This is the simplest and quickest way to relax yourself in a
    stressful situation. The minute you focus on your breathing it automatically gets slower and deeper.
  5. Get in the habit of daydreaming.
    Take yourself away on an imaginary holiday. Just close your eyes and go! Picture somewhere you’ve been or somewhere you’ve dreamed of.
  6. Get in the habit of giggling.
    Laugh out loud every day.
    Don’t let your stress get the better of you! Which one of these strategies can you apply this week to manage your stress?

Tree analogy

I have this tree analogy when I think of people in my life, be it friends, family, acquaintances, employees, co-workers, whomever…
They­ are all placed inside what I call my tree test.
It goes like this:

LEAF PEOPLE
Some people come into your life and they are like leaves on a tree. They are only there for a season. You can’t depend on them or count on them because they are weak and only there to give you shade. Like leaves, they are there to take what they need and as soon as it gets cold or a wind blows in your life they are gone. You can’t be angry at them, it’s just who they are.

BRANCH PEOPLE
There are some people who come into your life and they are like branches on a tree. They are stronger than leaves, but you have to be careful with them. They will stick around through most seasons, but if you go through a storm or two in your life it’s possible that you could lose them.
Most times they break away when it’s tough. Although they are stronger than leaves, you have to test them out before you run out there and put all your weight on them. In most cases they can’t handle too much weight. But again, you can’t be mad with them, it’s just who they are.

ROOT PEOPLE
If you can find some people in your life who are like the roots of a tree then you have found something special. Like the roots of a tree, they are hard to find because they are not trying to be seen. Their only job is to hold you up and help you live a strong and healthy life. If you thrive, they are happy. They stay low key and don’t let the world know that they are there. And if you go through an awful storm they will hold you up. Their job is to hold you up, come what may, and to nourish you, feed you and water you.

Just as a tree has many limbs and many leaves, there are few roots.
Look at your own life. How many leaves, branches and roots do you have?
What are you in other people’s lives?

THANK GOD FOR ROOTS!

Tree analogy

I have this tree analogy when I think of people in my life, be it friends, family, acquaintances, employees, co-workers, whomever…
They­ are all placed inside what I call my tree test.
It goes like this:

LEAF PEOPLE
Some people come into your life and they are like leaves on a tree. They are only there for a season. You can’t depend on them or count on them because they are weak and only there to give you shade. Like leaves, they are there to take what they need and as soon as it gets cold or a wind blows in your life they are gone. You can’t be angry at them, it’s just who they are.

BRANCH PEOPLE
There are some people who come into your life and they are like branches on a tree. They are stronger than leaves, but you have to be careful with them. They will stick around through most seasons, but if you go through a storm or two in your life it’s possible that you could lose them.
Most times they break away when it’s tough. Although they are stronger than leaves, you have to test them out before you run out there and put all your weight on them. In most cases they can’t handle too much weight. But again, you can’t be mad with them, it’s just who they are.

ROOT PEOPLE
If you can find some people in your life who are like the roots of a tree then you have found something special. Like the roots of a tree, they are hard to find because they are not trying to be seen. Their only job is to hold you up and help you live a strong and healthy life. If you thrive, they are happy. They stay low key and don’t let the world know that they are there. And if you go through an awful storm they will hold you up. Their job is to hold you up, come what may, and to nourish you, feed you and water you.

Just as a tree has many limbs and many leaves, there are few roots.
Look at your own life. How many leaves, branches and roots do you have?
What are you in other people’s lives?

THANK GOD FOR ROOTS!

Small Stories #40

To start up this week on a Monday morning sharing this small story with you all ….

Are you Hurt?

On his first day
in office as President,
when Abraham Lincoln entered to give his inaugural address,
one man stood up.

He was a rich Aristocrat.

He said, “Mr. Lincoln, you should not forget that your father used to make shoes for my family.”

And the whole Senate laughed; they thought they had made a fool of Lincoln.

But certain people are made of a totally different mettle.

Lincoln looked at the man directly in the eye and said,
“Sir, I know that my father used to make shoes for your family, and there will be many others here,
Because he made shoes the way nobody else can, he was a Creator.

His shoes were not just shoes; he poured his whole soul into them.

I want to ask you, have you any complaint?

Because I know how to make shoes myself.
If you have any complaint,
I can make you another pair of shoes.
But as far as I know, nobody has ever complained about my father’s shoes.
He was a Genius,
a Great Creator and
I am proud of
my Father”.

The whole Senate was struck dumb.
They could not understand what kind of man Abraham Lincoln was.

He was proud because his Father did his Job
so well–
that not even a single Complaint had ever been heard.

Moral of this story:

“No one can hurt you without your Consent.”

“It is not what happens to us that hurts us.

It is our response that hurts us.

Be excellent at
your work
no matter
what work you do.”

Acceptance

Of course we would all benefit if we just accepted lessons passed down to us, but where is the fun in eating unless you have seen, felt, smelt and tasted the food? And yet, it would be beneficial to get a jumpstart by accepting at least some givens. These are:

  1. Allow happiness to lead your choices: Be it works or relationships, choose what makes you happy. That’s the best way to find and align with your true purpose.
  2. Do not believe all you see and hear: Dwell beyond perception to understand the truth. You will be surprised at what you discover.
  3. If you set your mind and heart to it, you can achieve anything: Nothing is impossible so long as you are determined to work and strategise to achieve it.
  4. All good things come with intention and hard work: Be it relationships,or a state of peace and happiness,nothing falls into your lap unless you work at it with dedication, sincerity and strategy.
  5. This too shall pass: Good or bad, everything changes and life is more often than not an alternating cycle of the good and bad. Just believe and maintain a balance.
  6. The critical point is to live your experience with alertness and practice regular reflection: Life evolves and upgrades as you realign your being to new learnings along the journey.

Be Happy

If you wait until you feel 100% ready, you will be waiting the rest of your life.

Realize this!

Some people wait all day for 5pm, all week for Friday, all year for the holidays, all their lives for happiness. Don’t be one of them.

Cheers to a New Beginning

Although none of the above mentioned “notes to self” immediately force you to do anything different, they represent a timely shift in perspective, and perspective is where peace and happiness begins. From there, you can change your posture from one of tension and resistance to one of acceptance and opportunity.

Ultimately, the goal isn’t to get rid of all your negative thoughts, feelings or life situations as you journey into 2021. The goal is to change your response to them.

The days, weeks and months ahead—both before and after the New Year—will be filled with incredible highs and stressful lows, for all of us. But in any case, we can train our minds to make the best of the present moment as it unfolds. Just take it one “note” at a time, and please know that if you’re struggling with any of this, you are not alone. Many of us are right there with you, working hard to feel better, think more clearly, and keep our lives on track.

I sincerely hope you will join with hard things of life as we prepare to begin a new in 2021.

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